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What's a Diva: Demon or Darling?
The Encarta Encyclopedia defines the word diva as a spoilt
brat, attention-seeker, show-off or bragger. Derived from the
Italian, the word diva used to mean "goddess" or "exceptional
female singer" but over the years the word has become known in
popular culture to describe a very difficult, hard to handle
woman or man. Wikipedia calls a diva "manipulative, highly
strung, privileged and demanding. He or she does not believe
the law and accepted rules of courtesy apply to him or her."
Another designation I would add is prima
donna.
Just for fun, I decided to see what my computer search engine
would come up with when I typed in the word diva. Not
surprisingly, the first names to pop up in the MSN Search were
Celine Dion, Madonna, Whitney Houston, Barbra Streisand, Mariah
Carey, Maria Callas and Luciano Pavarotti!
The people listed are all definitely known for being fussy and
perhaps even fiendish. I've worked in the entertainment
business for a long time, both in front of the footlights and
behind them, and encountered my share of divas, to be sure.
However, even if you don't work in the theatre or the diva
populated worlds of film, television, or opera, I'm sure you
have a diva or two you've run across. Sitting at my
hairdresser's one morning, the lady next to me found out that I
was writing about divas, and remarked: "I could use some advice
about my teenage daughters. They're both divas and impossible
to handle!" People talk to me about their kids, mother-in-laws,
ex-wives, and bosses. But are all divas demons?
I think it's a mistake to lump all the divas of the world into
one category. I agree that the great soprano Maria Callas was
known to be a very demanding lady, but what a glorious voice
she had! I personally knew the lovely opera diva Beverly Sills.
Did you know that her nickname was Bubbles? Does that sound
like a name for a fiendish diva? She was one of the kindest
ladies I've ever met.
Divas get a bad rap because many strive for perfection. That's
where the line between nice gal and conceited maniac get
blurry. The following story about tenor Luciano Pavarotti is a
perfect example: A number of years ago Luciano took a limousine
to an opera house where he arrived to sing that night. He
instructed the driver to return at a designated spot and time
after his performance. The driver complied. Because the singer
had to greet his fans after the opera was over, he didn't reach
the limousine until late into the night. When Luciano finally
arrived, walking in the crisp, icy evening air to the
limousine, he immediately chastised the driver for not having
the car warmed up. The driver was shocked at the prima donna's
outrage, but the singer quickly explained: "I expect to ride in
a warmed up car as my voice is my career and without it I am
nothing."
What seemed like a tantrum, and indeed, it was a tantrum, was
justified.
I'm not saying that those divas we love to read about in the
magazines aren't sometimes over the top with their demands.
Jennifer Lopez use to demand that her dressing room only be
decorated in all white. That included the walls and any rugs,
chairs, and flowers. Rock musicians ask that all brown M&Ms
be removed from their candy dishes or they won't go on stage.
The list goes on and on. But I do understand the demands on
many divas to perform as close to perfection as possible. We
the public have put celebrities on a pedestal, making it almost
impossible for them not to eventually fall. No wonder they are
picky and grumpy. You would be too if your every move was
I say give the divas of our lives a break. At least until the
next tantrum which we will then be psychoanalyzing on national
television until the cows come home. I love the freedom of the
press!
by Shelley G. Anderson - 7th July 2008
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Shelley G. Anderson is the personal assistant to self-help
author Louise L. Hay, and writes the column Dear Miss Know It
All. She is the author of Dealing With Divas: A Survivor's Kit
for the Celebrity Personal Assistant (or Anyone with a Pushy
Boss). To learn more about her, visit http://www.dealingwithdivas.com.
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